The Langbehn-Pond Family ~ the accidental activists

http://queerequalityrevolution.wordpress.com/2010/01/31/if-michelle-obama-died/#comment-267

IF MICHELLE OBAMA DIED

Look, if you are — regardless of your personal opinions, the notion that somebody who’s working really hard for 30 years can’t take their death benefits and transfer them to the person that they love the most in the world and who has supported them all their lives, that just doesn’t seem fair. It doesn’t seem right. (Applause.) And I think it’s the right thing to do.” – President Obama

You got that right, SIR, but why dance around the suffering, Mr. President?

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Why not say,

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“It is CRUEL.

It is MALICIOUS.

It is INHUMAN to inflict this on

FAMILIES and their CHILDREN”

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Because even if the LGBTQ community COULD do these things to heterosexuals in “civil” law (irony), I doubt we would be so hateful towards other tax-paying American individuals and families.

“Look, as I said last night, my belief is, is that a basic principle in our Constitution is that if you’re obeying the law, if you’re following the rules, that you should be treated the same, regardless of who you are.” – President Obama

But Mr. President -

Convicted felons have the right to

CIVIL MARRIAGE.

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Why can’t Bob and I?

And which laws should I obey when the law excludes MY FAMILY?

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Or to make it more “real” for you:

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Michelle Obama is lying in a hospital bed, dying from an unexpected illness. She has less than 24 hours to live. Hospital workers say to you “sorry, you’re in an anti-black city and state“ (like Janice Langbehn experienced in Florida). Michelle dies ALONE, as you, Sasha, and Malia are prevented from having any contact with her. Your children are traumatized for life because they were told they were not in a “real family”. You never got to hold Michelle and tell her that you loved her one last time; there is a law preventing you from doing that.

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Is that JUST “unjust and unfair”?

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Or something much more

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hateful and evil?

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And if Michelle Obama ever reads this:

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Michelle, please imagine how Malia and Sasha would feel if they experienced what Danielle, David, and Katie experienced. Horrific.

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My God, as the nation tries to decide whether or not gays are “worthy enough”, we need to remember that are talking about MUCH MORE than a vote on a bridge tax or school levy.

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Is there anything more important than family?

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THIS IS OUR FAMILY.

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THIS IS OUR LIVES.

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Please pray for our freedom from this ballot-box terrorism against OUR FAMILY.

Here is David opening our House or Representatives Floor Session today by carrying the US flag in.   If it starts at the very beginning cue it to about 10min 25 seconds is when the honor guard is presented.  And they even said David’s name correctly

On a day when our family celebrated Bob’s marriage to Jen

and couples were called to dance – it slammed me in the chest – I had no partner to dance with

and that brings me full circle and trying to understand and be at peace with Lisa’s Death without Dignity

Lisa – was restrained, unable to speak for herself while the kids and I waited behind a locked door for 8 hours to be with her

only to gain access when her Sister arrived.  All because of What?  Mr. Frederick’s statement I was in an “anti-gay city and state”.

My complaint to the commission that oversees hospital is concluded without even calling me – all just from a 2 paragraph email

Is that justice – How do I know that they knew the full story?  And the investigation is sealed – So staff at JMH continue to practice

without so much as a reprimand.  Some are allowed to read her chart nearly 3 years after the fact to rationalize and justify their action

have come out saying I was “irate” in the waiting room – curious since I never met this nurse and Mr. Frederick only saw me for 5 minutes right

after Lisa’s admission.

It’s all unspeakable and horrible for what happened to our family – allowing Lisa’s to die alone

So as the three year anniversary approaches – all I can ask is that you don’t forget her

that you make your voices heard so ALL families matter.

Take a Moment and write an email or call Jackson Memorial and tell them you are outraged, that our family deserves and apology

Write to the Public Trust of Miami-Dade that oversees the hospital – they have been conspicously silent during this tragedy

It’s time for them to answer to how we were treated – from the time Lisa was admitted to the time she was laid to rest.

I still can’t get her death certificate, she was listed as “single” so one stroke of a pen erased 18 years of committment we had

We can make a difference,

Will you help me?

peace

http://www.jhsmiami.org/body.cfm?id=45

http://www.openarmscampaign.org/

As I begin my CASA training in March, I think that the next important step would do what this woman in Texas has done by recruiting LGBT families for Washington Foster kids – especially since gay foster parenting and gay adoptions are not prohibited in our state – Lisa and I are proof of that.  I would love to figure out how to assist gay parents – navigate DSHS to become licensed either through the state or through some private agencies (obviously not CCS).  There is a need both for kids gay or straight needing homes about 18K kids at any one time – and Gay parents who want children.  As well as LGBTQ youth needing open minded homes.  In all the years we foster parented we only had 1 teen that was openly gay.

I have reached out to Tracy the executive director of this agency to see how I can put my time and talent to use here in WA.  If I can’t return to work on a paid basis, I can’t let my education and experiences go to waste when there is such a need.  Just one more thing that I hope the foundation I am working to start will focus on – not only inclusive hospital visitation but meeting the needs of our local LGBTQ youth.

peace

and the blog was staring at me – update me – you aren’t writing

it was a hard holiday season for many reason – none to be aired here – those close to me know what is up

so a knock on the door this afternoon – and Mr. Lauren our neighbor said “so do you want me to dig the hole for the new basketball hoop”

I had said in passing – if he could help did a 2 ft x 2ft hole then maybe I could find someone else to put the pole and rebar in

not mr. Lauren he did it all for us.  David helping – the weather had dried just enough – and he dug the hole, cleared it out go the pole in

perfectly level, taught david the finer things of pouring concrete and within 2 hours, Mr. Lauren was done.

It is people like Lauren is what make lisa choose this street to settle on – thank god I listened to her – she knew what a “neighborhood” looked like.

So day three goes to mr. Lauren – yah to him, as in 3 days we will get up our new shatterproof bball hoop – which all 3 are drooling to try out.

I’m blessed

peace