This is from the Lambda Legal booth at the SF pride event 2 weekends ago
6 Jul
underway
summer is in full force and fortunately we have only had a few days over 90, when I can’t move due to the heat
Danielle leaves in 2 days to visit her godparents (Lisa’s brother Michael and sister-in-law Cathy)
Then K,d and I leave from Seattle on Saturday for Alaska and BC for a week of bliss on another Rfamily Cruise
Katie is busy with volleyball camp this week and soccer 2 nights a week
David has football camp when we return and 2 nights of soccer
Danielle is finishing up her drives for drivers Ed and she is doing very well – then has soccer camps when she returns from CT
And I’m the glorified taxi driver, no tips left by the kids except their garbage in the car 
Katie is heading to see her Aunt Marilyn/Scarlett in SF – and see Patty Duke (Anna) who is staring in Wicked – Katie’s favorite bdway play so far
so as we pack up to desert the house for a week – there will be few updates – but I say that every year on the cruise – we will just have to see
peace
25 Jun
searching for peace
farrah has left after what can only be described by outsiders as such a hard battle against anal cancer. I only hope for peace for her, her family and her friends. peace
22 Jun
6.22.09
Thinking about if there is any significance to this date..
realized it is our first daughter – Rose – her 31’st bday – we became her guardians when she was 15 and we were 24 and 25. Pretty amazing journey.
Other than that, all kids are out for the summer and it’s in full swing
k/d cleaned stalls yesterday with chris – i got hit be the electric fence keeping the horses in.. hate my tremors.. oh well
david has basketball camp this week and
k/d have 2 soccer games (at night each)
only 3 weeks to the cruise, 2 weeks till big D leaves for her aunt/uncles – filling our time with what our family does best -
summer camps, sports games and playing with friends
that’s enough
peace
18 Jun
amazing
absolutely at wits end with docs, medicine and what feels like lack of compassion, a friend posted this on facebook, enjoy
peace
18 Jun
lightning
dry air swirls around
the charge is palpable
like anger and pain it shoot from the sky to light up the dark
quick. fast. unpredictable
sometimes silently approaching from behind
other times coming with deafening sound from the front
light zig zagging down needs the dark to find its path
embrace the fear of the flash, smell the air, breathe
peace
8 Jun
it’s been two decades
today would be our 20th anniversary – it brings me to my knees
running kids to soccer practice, trying to recovering from a 5 day hospital stay – oh how I HATE steroids
registering K at her new school – looks like a good program with a spring trip to Washington DC – that grabbed her right away
Danielle getting her flight set for this summer to visit her godparents
all that happens in 20 years – it is amazing – what will the next 20 bring?
Delilah (at the time was ReNay) read our letter aloud on the local station on 6.8.89 and played wind beneath my wings
to meet Delilah last week to know I was one of those fortunate letters she carried around – 20 yrs ago
Lisa – god rest in peace my love, I miss you more than anyone will ever know
peace
28 May
Amazing Night
Well 3 tickets for $30 each – going to the charity – Point Hope. Hosted by a radio show personality – here in puget sound – long and even bigger story beyond that – I took david as my date and had a wonderful friend who used our 3rd ticket.. couldn’t let it go to waste. So we saw India.Arie – amazing amazing singer and soul. and then the lead singer of Five for Fighting – John – it was pure magic for only $30 dollars that wen to charity. I was move to tears and when Five for Fighting played the song wishes – David said “mom you did a move to that” and indeed I had – on 7.7.07 the return cruise toscatter some of lisa’s ashes and over come huge fears. Listen to the words – they stop you and make you think and hopefully our cruise pictures are not too distracting as you enjoy the movie – Peace all ( i hope this works to repost an you all enjoy_)
26 May
Marriage Ban upheld
sad to report that prop 8 was upheld 6-1 by california supreme court.. though the 18,000 marriages that happened prior are still legal
talk about second class citizens – I can only hope that the Obama administration realizes this will tear at the very fabric of our constitutions
and a federal measure recognizing all as equal – marriage equality must happen
i feel daily the oppression of the 1138 federal right Lisa and I did not have and MANY of the washington state laws that discriminated against us
since she died prior to the domestic partnership act.
I can’t receive her death Soc. Security Benefits, I have no say over her remains or the ability to allow our oldest son insert his letter to her – now that it is sealed.
The one benefit I was thankful for – she was able to be on my health insurance as a state employee while she stayed at home. How naive we were – we were thankful for that small victory years ago… i think we settle for too little. I wonder what we would have done had she lived – likely we would have gone to CA were we have family and friends to marry – since MA has a residence requirement. But I have no idea – we never had the chance to consider the possibilities.
To my sister and her wife, to kelly and bill my ever steadfast supporters I am thankful your marriage is still valid. My heart hurts for the thousands of other couples who will not realize this equality in CA for some amount of time. But rest assured, I believe in my lifetime – it will happen – full marriage equality.
peace
wonder where to help support full marriage equality – go to www.lambdalegal.org to donate (full disclosure I am a plaintiff represented by Lambda in Florida – but their legal expertise is unmatched in my mind and I am grateful that they are representing our family)
